Creating Families: Who Becomes a Surrogate Mother?
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Many people wonder what motivates a woman to carry someone else’s baby and to be willing to endure medical procedures (to get pregnant), morning sickness, nine months of pregnancy, potential medical risks, labor and delivery, and then putting an infant into the arms of its parents.
As the oldest surrogacy agency in the world, we are often asked that question. Through the years, we have found our wonderful surrogate mothers have several key traits in common.
Touched by infertility
Many of our surrogates have told us the desire to help a friend or family member overcome their infertility was the initial motivation for them exploring surrogacy.
A fulfilling experience
"Almost universally, our surrogates found their pregnancies to be relatively easy as well as very fulfilling emotionally and physically."
Almost universally, our surrogates found their pregnancies to be relatively easy as well as very fulfilling emotionally and physically. Though most are finished building their own family, they still have a deep desire to experience more pregnancies.
Helping others love
Many tell us that surrogacy has been a life-long dream of theirs, which they research thoroughly before applying. Their goal is to help deserving individuals become parents and bond with the parents-to-be. One surrogate mother told us she cannot contribute significantly to mankind by curing cancer, for example, but she can make a difference to one family and that gift will last for generations.
A common misconception is that women engage in surrogacy primarily for the money. Though the compensation can be a wonderful supplement to a family’s income, finances should not be the main motivating factor. Surrogacy is not a way to make a living and our agency require applicants to have a steady source of income. Surrogate mothers receiving welfare are not accepted for numerous reasons, including because their compensation could jeopardize future welfare benefits. In addition, surrogacy should not be the way to put food on the table because surrogate mothers only receive compensation once they are pregnant and during the pregnancy and not every pregnancy is easily achieved or achieved at all.